Five Ways to Manage Your Energy at a Conference

One thing that I find challenging as a highly sensitive person is the feeling of being overwhelmed when I’m attending conferences. At such events you’re constantly exposed to copious amounts of ever changing sights, sounds, and energies. And if you attend personal or professional growth seminars you are also vulnerable to the unexpected emotions that (hopefully) trigger a breakthrough in your life and business.

It’s a lot to handle, especially if you are the type of person that tends to help other people manage their energy. Suddenly you’re thrust into a situation where you feel everyone’s energy and it can be difficult to maintain your sense of peace and confidence when you are exposed to so much.

Recently I turned down some opportunities to attend conferences because I believed it would leave me depleted and exhausted. I knew that from experience because in the past I would try to put on my game face and be like everybody else so I didn’t seem as “less than”. But honestly, I just couldn’t keep up and I would crash. Hard.

However, conferences are great opportunities to learn and grow so I’ve adopted a few new practices to help me stay true to myself and still have a great time.

First let me just say that there are two things to be clear about before you say yes to an event like this. Make sure that you actually want to attend the conference and will benefit from what is being taught. If you’re only mildly interested say no. Period. Next spend some time getting to know the host. Observe how they interact with their tribe and determine whether or not you trust this person. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about their philosophy or what you can gain from their event.

Five Ways to Manage Your Energy at a Conference

1. Know that you don’t have to attend EVERY session. Many conferences that I attend involve ten hour days for three straight days. That’s a lot for anybody, but if you’re highly sensitive, you’re especially susceptible to overextending yourself. Look at the schedule beforehand and identify a couple of times that you can take a break if you feel your energy dipping.

2. Create some space for yourself. Introverts need a little bit of alone time to process and recharge. On your breaks, take a walk outside. Sit in the sun or under a shade tree. Find a place with running water or relaxing music and just BE for a few moments.

3. Meet a new friend and have an intimate conversation. When you’re involved and connected with another person you are less likely to be thrown off balance from the energy in the room.

4. Move your body. Energy needs to move. If you’re picking up lots of energy from your surroundings you don’t want to hold that in your body. Let it out. Your event organizer may have a guided movement activity. Join in, rather than worry about how you might look. You’ll feel so much better afterward.

5. Bring a touch of the familiar with you. Keep a photo of your family with you or an object that reminds you of someone you love. Also, you could ask a person close to you to send a “check in” text during your breaks. This will help keep you grounded and remind you of WHY you are attending the conference.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is so important to your growth. You don’t need to miss out on these opportunities simply because they are not designed for the highly sensitive person. You are strong and perfectly capable of adapting so that your next conference is a positive and life changing experience.

How to Use Writing to Get Into the Flow, Open Up Creatively, and Heal Your Soul

We’ve all had experiences of trauma, heartbreak, confusion, missed opportunities and loss. Sometimes it feels as though these events, and the pain, will stay with us forever.

It might feel better to deny the pain, but when pain is denied it doesn’t leave the body and soul. Rather it stays energetically stuck and emerges as various physical and emotional ailments. The energy can’t flow.

A healthy, happy soul flows.

Being in flow means being guided by the source of all things. You may simply call it “being in the zone”. When you’re in flow, there is little resistance to life and even the challenging days don’t seem as difficult.

Artists are connected to flow when they create. Soulful business leaders are connected to flow when they lead. Anyone can be connected to the flow for creativity, abundance, and healing.

What stops us from being in flow?

The ego mind continually seeks out problems or possible problems as a means to keep us safe, or in other words to never experience pain again. But we both know that’s just not possible and so what really ends up happening is we stop participating in life. We shut down our creative side. We quit taking risks. We lose our joy.

Perhaps it’s not as dramatic as that for you. But the ego mind can certainly cause you to feel doubt and confusion. Does your mind ever re-live a situation over and over to “figure it out” and you just feel stuck?

Wayne Dyer used to say that ego stands for Edging God Out. The ego mind disconnects your from your flow.

So how about you get that going again?

One of the best ways I’ve discovered to stay in flow, open up to my creative side, and heal my soul is through writing. It helps me establish a dialogue with my soul and my higher power. I begin to see and understand myself from a new perspective, one of non-judgment and love.

A regular practice of journaling can help you get back into flow. Here are some tips for making your practice successful.

Journaling for Healing Tips

  • Set up a regular time to journal. I prefer to write just before bed. It helps me get all the junk out of my head so I can sleep peacefully.
  • Use pen and paper whenever possible. This creates a physical connection to the activity and makes for a richer experience
  • Use journal prompts to help you access the deeper parts of yourself that are waiting to be expressed (get my list of 25 soulful journal prompts below)
  • Let the thoughts flow from your mind on to the paper. Do not edit. There is no right or wrong
  • Don’t read your journal entries until some time has passed and you no longer feel emotionally charged by the words
  • Keep your journal private. This is a judgment free zone, where you should be free to express yourself in any way you see fit
  • Accept that you are not looking for direct answers to your circumstances but rather a feeling of peace and satisfaction from the writing process itself

In time, a regular practice of writing will help you to trust your authentic self, and accept yourself as whole. This is the true healing we all seek. Don’t forget to get your free journal prompts below.

Three Ways to Nourish the Soul Without Food

You know your body needs to consume food in order to survive. When you were a baby and you sensed that you were hungry, you cried and someone provided you with the nutrients you needed. Each day your body used that nourishment to grow, and now that you are an adult you accept this process of feeding your body with food.

But what about your soul? How does the soul cry for nourishment and how do you feed this aspect of yourself?

I believe the soul speaks to us in many ways. First it speaks as a gentle nudge in the form of an inspired thought. Then it might try to get our attention by lining up with odd occurrences or synchronicities in the world around us. Next we might feel a sense of discomfort in some area of life. And finally, if we don’t answer these calls, the soul will speak to us (cry out) through our own emotions of frustration, anger, sadness, or boredom.

The problem is often compounded by the fact that we just don’t know what to feed the soul. So often people attempt to nourish the soul with food, just as they would feed the body. And this doesn’t solve the problem, it doesn’t make the discomfort go away, so they feed themselves again. Unfortunately this type of emotional eating usually just leads to weight gain and a never ending cycle of unfulfilled needs.

Does this sound familiar to you? Well the first key to changing anything is awareness. If you become aware in those situations of trying to fuel the soul with donuts and pizza, then you can choose another, more soul fulfilling course of action.

When the soul cries it is asking to be nourished with experiences, not things. A salad itself does not fill the soul, but the experience of shopping for ingredients,  preparing a salad with care and sharing that salad with others CAN fill the soul.

If you pay attention to your present surroundings and notice how you feel, you are communicating with your soul and this puts you in a great place to offer your soul the nourishment it wants. You might be surprised to learn that the simplest things are often the most satisfying. The soul after all does not care what kind of car you drive or how much money you make. It is only concerned with with giving and receiving the feelings of love, joy, and peace.

Each individual soul has its own unique preferences as to what they find fulfilling and how they access this love, joy and peace. In my own life I have found three ways to nourish your soul without food.

Three Ways to Nourish Your Soul Without Food

1. Personal reflection – When you take the time to stop fulfilling the needs of the external world and just sit with yourself, in silence, you can often hear the soul speaking. In my experience this practice has helped me to realize, more than once, that I was doing things in my life that really didn’t light me up. Personal reflection has been a great tool in helping me stay aligned with my soul’s purpose.

When can you take some time today to sit in silence, doing nothing? A few moments is all it takes.

2. Self expression – I’ve always been a big advocate of positive self expression in whatever form that takes for each person. I know that when I am making something, whether it be painting, writing, singing, graphic design or speaking, I am tuned into Divine Source. The point of self expression is not money and admiration, but rather a sense of inner fulfillment and bliss. The best aspect of self expression is that the more you open up to express yourself, the more space you create for even more inspiration and creativity to flow. And thus more bliss!

What is one thing you can do today to move some creative energy?

3. Connection and intimacy – I’m not necessarily talking about the moments you spend with a romantic partner. Connection and intimacy is a bond that is formed when you accept and appreciate someone or something for who/what they are. The first requirement for this is to allow yourself to be truly present in the moment (practicing #1 and #2 above can help you get in the moment). One of my favorite ways to practice intimacy is by going out into nature. I keep my eyes and ears open for nearby animals and interesting plants. If something catches my attention I stop to make a connection. You can bet if you do this the animals are also aware of you. Try it.

How can you experience a moment of connection and intimacy today?

Ultimately the soul is easy to please if you just practice feeding it for a few moments each day. I think you’ll find that if you do this, it will improve other areas as well.
How does your soul like to be fed? Share below.

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How to Find a Reason to Get Up in the Morning

Two days ago I watched one of those heart-warming, tear-jerking videos online. Let me give you a summary of the story because it illustrates my message for today.

The man in the story describes how, just five years ago he was overweight (340 pounds), unhappy, unhealthy, and felt so disconnected that he isolated himself from the world around him. An embarrassing incident prompted the man to hire a nutritionist and her first instruction for him was to adopt a pet from the local shelter. The point of this was to get the man more physically and socially active.

He visited the shelter and found a dog who appeared like himself, middle aged and overweight. Though their first few days together were awkward, the man and his new dog, Peety eventually formed an inseparable bond.  The unconditional love of this companion motivated the man to be a better person. He lost over 140 pounds and began running marathons. The dog’s health improved too. Ultimately they both saved each other and brought each other back to life again.

They gave each other a reason to get up in the morning.

I know how hard it can be to find the motivation to LIVE. I’ve suffered depression myself and some days (even recently) I have found myself  struggling to find my own reason to get up in the morning. So if you or someone you know can relate, I’ll share three ways to help you find your motivation so you can show up another day to live and breathe, feel like you have a purpose (because you do!) and find your joy again.

Three ways to get motivated about your life

The purpose of this list is to help you find at least one thing that inspires passion within you. Passion is one of the 7 Essentials for Vibrant Health and without it life can seem meaningless. In essence you want to embrace something that will give you something to look forward to.

1. Have a clear vision of your future. When you were a kid did you have a big dream about what it would like to be grown up and live the life you wanted to live? That’s the kind of clear vision that spurs you to show up and never give up. What is it that you would really, really like to do, be or have in the future. Spend some time letting yourself daydream about your vision and allow yourself to fully feel the excitement of achieving your goal.

2. Share yourself with another living soul. Humans are social creatures and we need to feel connected and valued in order to thrive. Surround yourself with at least one other person or animal with whom you can build a close bond. Find someone who cares about your happiness as much as you care about theirs. Caring for others motivates you to act with generosity and strive to be a better person.

3. Join a movement. Victor Hugo once said, “Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” What kind of activities or causes interest you the most? Do you love animals, have a penchant for quilting, or desire to help end world hunger? I can guarantee there is a meetup event, club, or volunteer organization dedicated to your interests. When you gather with likeminded people to focus on a singular idea, the collective energy expands and fills you with joy and satisfaction. Essentially you ride on the vision of the group and you begin caring about something greater than yourself.

Vibrant joyful living begins with you.

The good news is that every one of us desire’s meaning and deeper connection in life.  Reach out and ask your friends what reason they have for getting up in the morning. You might learn something new about your friend and it might help you create some motivation in your own life.

So let me ask you. What gets YOU up in the morning? Share in the comments below to inspire others.

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Celebrating Freedom

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The best way to celebrate yourself and your journey is to simply enjoy it. Over the past ten days I’ve been blogging on the topic of freedom. It’s been challenging to step out of my comfort zone in the way that I express myself and it has also been very exciting and rewarding to create something new every day. I celebrate the fact that I have followed through with this commitment to express myself.

Take pride in how far you’ve come. Have faith in how far you can go. But don’t forget to enjoy the journey.  ~Michael Josephson

What I’ve enjoyed most about this Freedom Blog Series is finding my own sense of purpose and power through being authentic and vulnerable. I’ve shared many personal stories and I’ve found that sharing brings others in closer and makes them feel welcome. I’ve met new people who have also been blogging about freedom and I’ve heard from many readers that my stories and tips have been uplifting.

My favorite day of this Freedom Blog Series has been Day 2 entitled Discovering Your Why. I believe that passion fuels our lives and to know that we are all allowed to choose anything at all to believe in and pursue is completely inspiring to me. If we all gave ourselves this freedom just imagine all the greatness that could be achieved in this world. If you haven’t read the post on Discovering Your Why I suggest you do, because it could mean the difference between living a life of mediocrity and feeling alive and thriving in life.

You and Your Dreams Belong Together

My biggest takeaway from writing this series has been to never give up. Never let go of your dreams and keep pursuing those things in life that light you up, make you feel alive and push you to become a better version of yourself.

Take the Next Step Before You are Ready

One thing is for sure – to achieve your dreams and live with true freedom you must step outside of your comfort zone. Your mind, your family and some of your friends may try to stop you. This is not because they don’t want you to be happy. It’s because they want you to stay safe.

But as Tony Robbins tells us “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.” Nothing is certain in life. Can you go out anyway and follow your dreams?

This topic of uncertainty will be the topic of my next blog series in my journey to raise consciousness and help people find happiness, live in greatness and find the place they truly belong.

xo

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 10