Five Ways to Manage Your Energy at a Conference

One thing that I find challenging as a highly sensitive person is the feeling of being overwhelmed when I’m attending conferences. At such events you’re constantly exposed to copious amounts of ever changing sights, sounds, and energies. And if you attend personal or professional growth seminars you are also vulnerable to the unexpected emotions that (hopefully) trigger a breakthrough in your life and business.

It’s a lot to handle, especially if you are the type of person that tends to help other people manage their energy. Suddenly you’re thrust into a situation where you feel everyone’s energy and it can be difficult to maintain your sense of peace and confidence when you are exposed to so much.

Recently I turned down some opportunities to attend conferences because I believed it would leave me depleted and exhausted. I knew that from experience because in the past I would try to put on my game face and be like everybody else so I didn’t seem as “less than”. But honestly, I just couldn’t keep up and I would crash. Hard.

However, conferences are great opportunities to learn and grow so I’ve adopted a few new practices to help me stay true to myself and still have a great time.

First let me just say that there are two things to be clear about before you say yes to an event like this. Make sure that you actually want to attend the conference and will benefit from what is being taught. If you’re only mildly interested say no. Period. Next spend some time getting to know the host. Observe how they interact with their tribe and determine whether or not you trust this person. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about their philosophy or what you can gain from their event.

Five Ways to Manage Your Energy at a Conference

1. Know that you don’t have to attend EVERY session. Many conferences that I attend involve ten hour days for three straight days. That’s a lot for anybody, but if you’re highly sensitive, you’re especially susceptible to overextending yourself. Look at the schedule beforehand and identify a couple of times that you can take a break if you feel your energy dipping.

2. Create some space for yourself. Introverts need a little bit of alone time to process and recharge. On your breaks, take a walk outside. Sit in the sun or under a shade tree. Find a place with running water or relaxing music and just BE for a few moments.

3. Meet a new friend and have an intimate conversation. When you’re involved and connected with another person you are less likely to be thrown off balance from the energy in the room.

4. Move your body. Energy needs to move. If you’re picking up lots of energy from your surroundings you don’t want to hold that in your body. Let it out. Your event organizer may have a guided movement activity. Join in, rather than worry about how you might look. You’ll feel so much better afterward.

5. Bring a touch of the familiar with you. Keep a photo of your family with you or an object that reminds you of someone you love. Also, you could ask a person close to you to send a “check in” text during your breaks. This will help keep you grounded and remind you of WHY you are attending the conference.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is so important to your growth. You don’t need to miss out on these opportunities simply because they are not designed for the highly sensitive person. You are strong and perfectly capable of adapting so that your next conference is a positive and life changing experience.

How to Find a Reason to Get Up in the Morning

Two days ago I watched one of those heart-warming, tear-jerking videos online. Let me give you a summary of the story because it illustrates my message for today.

The man in the story describes how, just five years ago he was overweight (340 pounds), unhappy, unhealthy, and felt so disconnected that he isolated himself from the world around him. An embarrassing incident prompted the man to hire a nutritionist and her first instruction for him was to adopt a pet from the local shelter. The point of this was to get the man more physically and socially active.

He visited the shelter and found a dog who appeared like himself, middle aged and overweight. Though their first few days together were awkward, the man and his new dog, Peety eventually formed an inseparable bond.  The unconditional love of this companion motivated the man to be a better person. He lost over 140 pounds and began running marathons. The dog’s health improved too. Ultimately they both saved each other and brought each other back to life again.

They gave each other a reason to get up in the morning.

I know how hard it can be to find the motivation to LIVE. I’ve suffered depression myself and some days (even recently) I have found myself  struggling to find my own reason to get up in the morning. So if you or someone you know can relate, I’ll share three ways to help you find your motivation so you can show up another day to live and breathe, feel like you have a purpose (because you do!) and find your joy again.

Three ways to get motivated about your life

The purpose of this list is to help you find at least one thing that inspires passion within you. Passion is one of the 7 Essentials for Vibrant Health and without it life can seem meaningless. In essence you want to embrace something that will give you something to look forward to.

1. Have a clear vision of your future. When you were a kid did you have a big dream about what it would like to be grown up and live the life you wanted to live? That’s the kind of clear vision that spurs you to show up and never give up. What is it that you would really, really like to do, be or have in the future. Spend some time letting yourself daydream about your vision and allow yourself to fully feel the excitement of achieving your goal.

2. Share yourself with another living soul. Humans are social creatures and we need to feel connected and valued in order to thrive. Surround yourself with at least one other person or animal with whom you can build a close bond. Find someone who cares about your happiness as much as you care about theirs. Caring for others motivates you to act with generosity and strive to be a better person.

3. Join a movement. Victor Hugo once said, “Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” What kind of activities or causes interest you the most? Do you love animals, have a penchant for quilting, or desire to help end world hunger? I can guarantee there is a meetup event, club, or volunteer organization dedicated to your interests. When you gather with likeminded people to focus on a singular idea, the collective energy expands and fills you with joy and satisfaction. Essentially you ride on the vision of the group and you begin caring about something greater than yourself.

Vibrant joyful living begins with you.

The good news is that every one of us desire’s meaning and deeper connection in life.  Reach out and ask your friends what reason they have for getting up in the morning. You might learn something new about your friend and it might help you create some motivation in your own life.

So let me ask you. What gets YOU up in the morning? Share in the comments below to inspire others.

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Creating Independence with Intention

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One of my biggest challenges around freedom, as I mentioned before is learning how to balance responsibility with desires. Can you relate to this? You want to have freedom to do extraordinary things, to travel whenever you want or to choose your adventures without having to limit yourself. But you most likely will need money to do so right?

You know you must take action to bring in an income. That doesn’t have to mean working hard doing something you really don’t like but it does mean focusing your time in the right way to bring about and manifest opportunities for you to live the kind of life you want to live.

Independence isn’t doing your own thing; It’s doing the right thing on your own. ~ Kim John Payne

If you’re wondering what the right thing is, you’re not alone. Most of my clients come to me looking for the right path that will lead the to the success and happiness they desire. The right path or the right thing will be different for everyone.

It’s all about balance.

Everything in the Universe seeks balance. The right path for you will include a certain balance of life and work. Some amount of structure is necessary for you to flow with ease and still maintain some stability.

The following questions are designed to help you gain some clarity around your path and what it looks like for you.

Creating Independence with Intention

1. What is important to you? What do you value most? (values are concepts such as creativity, community, excellence, nature, or playfulness)

2. Where are three places you dream of visiting or moving to (where you can incorporate your values)

3. What type of working environment and schedule will you need to create in order to get you to your desired lifestyle and location?

4. How will you maintain your life/work balance in the future?

To help you get started I will describe my ideal path toward independence. I value nature, creativity, and connection. My ideal locations for a vacation or living environment would be a small oceanside town, a cottage in a small town in France or a mountainside home in an active community (or all three!) In order to create such an environment for myself I am willing to focus my efforts on serving my ideal clients whom I will communicate with via internet and phone. This means setting up systems and a team in my business. I imagine working weekdays 10-5 until my system runs smoothly at which point I can cut the hours back to long mornings with afternoons and weekends free to make things and go on adventures.

What intentions do you have for creating independence and what does your work-life balance look like? Remember everyone’s path is different and that is perfectly okay. Share below!

xo

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 9

Three Steps to Develop Clarity

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I used to think I was clear about the things I wanted in my life. You may think you are as well. Does it look something like this? I want a __________ (nice, big, happy) ___________ (career, house, relationship). Of course, we all do. These are all “good” things and we always want good things over bad. But that is not necessarily being clear or having clarity.

I know this because I was in a bad place in my life for a very long time and I knew I didn’t want that. I wanted good things. In fact, I just wanted ANYTHING better than what I had, which was a rather sucky marriage. And I couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t attracting anything better into my life.

The truth is, I wasn’t clear about what I wanted. I was afraid to dream big because I was afraid I wouldn’t get it (and also maybe a little bit afraid that I would). So I walked around in a cloud of ambiguity, not really making any committed choices as to what I really, REALLY wanted. I asked for a sign and looked for little clues here and there as to what direction I should take in life. Obstacles in my path meant that I really wasn’t supposed to go that way, but go another way. And guess what? Nothing changed.

How was I supposed to know anyway? I didn’t even know where I was going. It’s kind of like using your GPS but only typing “West” as your destination. How do you know which signs will take you where you want to go? You have to have clarity. Clarity allows you to recognize INSTANTLY when the right thing (or sign) comes along.

The right thing is very close to you right now. But you can’t recognize it when you don’t have clarity.

3 Things you Need to Develop Clarity and Attract What You Really REALLY Want

1. Cleanse. I guarantee there are things in your life right now that are clouding your vision. It could be eating foods that make you tired and gain weight, it could be people who don’t support you or it could be distractions like shopping, tv, or internet. To gain clarity, you need to cut down on outside influences and return to pure living and thinking.

2. Desire. Some people will tell you desire is good while others will tell you it is bad. I’m here to tell you that (good or bad) desire is a vital part of having clarity. We seek out the things we desire. The stronger the desire is, the stronger the attraction will be and the easier it will be to recognize the object of your desire when it approaches.

3. Action. You can’t get anywhere unless you actually get in your car, hop on the bus, or board a plane. In other words, you have to take an action. This step only works if you’ve taken steps one and two. As I stated earlier, if you start going somewhere without knowing what you want, you’ll never know when you get there.

How to Move Past Procrastination

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Is procrastination helping you or hurting you?

Procrastination is your ego’s way of trying to save your life. No really. I believe procrastination is a tactic used by the ego to postpone you from doing something that feels risky. It’s actually a sneaky form of resistance.

Here’s what I mean. When you procrastinate you’re not exactly saying “no”, you’re just saying “not right now”. Sounds simple enough, right? You will do what you promised or you will do what you know you should do, but you’ll do it later. Presently you are choosing something else, something that feels better. The problem comes when you continue this pattern you get a little knot in your stomach because deep down you know you’re messing things up for your future. I know procrastination, I’ve done it plenty of times (true confession).

Procrastination stems from a lack of confidence. If you are unclear and unsure about the action you’re supposed to take, you will naturally want to step back and take some time to analyze the situation. It may feel safer to gather more information or more opinions before taking action, but the energy of this is telling the Universe you are simply not confident in your abilities in the situation. If you were, you would have taken the action by now.

There are many ways we procrastinate. Gathering more information is one. Another is distraction. Anytime you have a big project to work on you can bet someone or something will suddenly need your attention. Another way is to move v..e..r..y.. s..l..o..w.. When you move slow it feels like you’re making progress but three hours later you find yourself still in the same spot, working on something that really should have only take 20 minutes. Sound familiar?

If you’re feeling stuck, listen up. You have everything you need right now to move past procrastination.

Today’s tips come straight to you from our little friend the roadrunner who always knows how to keep things moving.

Wisdom of the Roadrunner for Overcoming Procrastination

Mental alertness – Let’s get that brain moving in the right direction. The roadrunner is always alert. He makes quick decisions and encourages you to do the same. Make a quick list of five reasons to get started right now.

Speedy action – What if your life depended on you doing something right now? The roadrunner knows that if he delays he may get eaten by a predator. Make a challenge for yourself. How quickly can you gather your supplies and take one action toward your goal? Ready? GO!

Right use of sound – You can use sound to your benefit. The roadrunner uses many different sounds to attract or repel depending on what is in his environment. The sound of your own voice can also influence your environment. Declare your intentions to take action out loud. This will shift the energy in and around you and move you past procrastination.

What do you need to move past today? Are you willing to use these tips right now or are you feeling resistance to them? Would you like to talk through what you’re feeling? I help people just like you let go of resistance and start following their dreams.  Let’s get you moving right now, okay?