How to Use Writing to Get Into the Flow, Open Up Creatively, and Heal Your Soul

We’ve all had experiences of trauma, heartbreak, confusion, missed opportunities and loss. Sometimes it feels as though these events, and the pain, will stay with us forever.

It might feel better to deny the pain, but when pain is denied it doesn’t leave the body and soul. Rather it stays energetically stuck and emerges as various physical and emotional ailments. The energy can’t flow.

A healthy, happy soul flows.

Being in flow means being guided by the source of all things. You may simply call it “being in the zone”. When you’re in flow, there is little resistance to life and even the challenging days don’t seem as difficult.

Artists are connected to flow when they create. Soulful business leaders are connected to flow when they lead. Anyone can be connected to the flow for creativity, abundance, and healing.

What stops us from being in flow?

The ego mind continually seeks out problems or possible problems as a means to keep us safe, or in other words to never experience pain again. But we both know that’s just not possible and so what really ends up happening is we stop participating in life. We shut down our creative side. We quit taking risks. We lose our joy.

Perhaps it’s not as dramatic as that for you. But the ego mind can certainly cause you to feel doubt and confusion. Does your mind ever re-live a situation over and over to “figure it out” and you just feel stuck?

Wayne Dyer used to say that ego stands for Edging God Out. The ego mind disconnects your from your flow.

So how about you get that going again?

One of the best ways I’ve discovered to stay in flow, open up to my creative side, and heal my soul is through writing. It helps me establish a dialogue with my soul and my higher power. I begin to see and understand myself from a new perspective, one of non-judgment and love.

A regular practice of journaling can help you get back into flow. Here are some tips for making your practice successful.

Journaling for Healing Tips

  • Set up a regular time to journal. I prefer to write just before bed. It helps me get all the junk out of my head so I can sleep peacefully.
  • Use pen and paper whenever possible. This creates a physical connection to the activity and makes for a richer experience
  • Use journal prompts to help you access the deeper parts of yourself that are waiting to be expressed (get my list of 25 soulful journal prompts below)
  • Let the thoughts flow from your mind on to the paper. Do not edit. There is no right or wrong
  • Don’t read your journal entries until some time has passed and you no longer feel emotionally charged by the words
  • Keep your journal private. This is a judgment free zone, where you should be free to express yourself in any way you see fit
  • Accept that you are not looking for direct answers to your circumstances but rather a feeling of peace and satisfaction from the writing process itself

In time, a regular practice of writing will help you to trust your authentic self, and accept yourself as whole. This is the true healing we all seek. Don’t forget to get your free journal prompts below.

Bucket List Ideas to Make Your Soul Happy

Until last week, I had never made any list of things to do before I die. Sure I’ve had dreams and I have even written many of those dreams down as a way to help manifest them into my life, however the idea of having a “bucket list” never sat well with me. I guess it’s because I felt that every time I would cross an item off the list, it would bring me closer to the end. Can you relate?

Well I’ve had a burst of inspiration that turned my thinking around and got me excited about making such a list. I’ll explain my story, my new and far better name for this list and I’ll even give you over 100 bucket list ideas so you can start too.

Start with Why

The reason I decided to finally begin my bucket list was simple and two-fold.

First, I had been feeling incredibly stressed out by all the political stories in my social media feeds. Times are tough no matter where in the world you live or what political beliefs you align with. We all feel the tension, but focusing on the external world so much was definitely not bringing me joy (one of my hallmarks of a well lived life). I believe truth is found by looking inward so this has been a perfect time for me to review my hopes and dreams for the future.

The second reason I felt this list was a great idea for me now in my life is that I am finally ready to experience that joy no matter what anyone else thinks. It doesn’t matter to me if I look silly or irrational or invest my money, time and efforts into things that other people don’t understand or appreciate. I spent so much of my life following the rules, trying not to rock the boat and pleasing other people.

I’m creating a bucket list to please myself and no one else!

Get Busy Living

The bottom line is that I decided it was time for me to get busy living. Living a full and rich life excites me and motivates me (much more than dying). For this reason I am calling my list the Get Busy Living List. My list so far is composed of a variety of actions I can take that represent my desires and curiosities about life. Some of the items on my list are things I’ve wanted to do for many, many years. Other items I found by reviewing other people’s lists and still others came to me by pure inspiration.

Contrary to what you might think, a Get Busy Living List doesn’t have to be all about expensive once in a lifetime dreams. When you create your list you are free to add even the tiniest action item. For instance, you might want to spend a day smiling at strangers, just to see how many smile back. It’s your list, your truth. You decide. Therein lies the freedom.

So are you ready to create your own list?

100 Bucket List ideas Get Busy Living List ideas to make your soul happy

Get busy traveling

What cities, states or countries have you always wanted to visit? Whether you go on a day trip, a weekend adventure or an epic journey, travel can uplift your soul. Here are some suggestions to get you moving:

  1. Nashville Tennessee – the home of country music
  2. The Redwood Forests of California – where ancient trees hold the secrets of life
  3. The Grand Canyon in Arizona – an ever-changing work of natural art
  4. Barcelona Spain – a city of crazy, passionate architecture
  5. Rome Italy – where history and legend meets
  6. The Scandinavian countries Denmark/Norway/Sweden – home of the Vikings and extreme weather
  7. Tokyo, New York, or Sao Paulo – the three largest cities in the world
  8. Machu Picchu Peru – a 15th century mountain top citadel
  9. The Great Pyramids – one of the world’s biggest mysteries
  10. Petra Jordan – Indiana Jones went there

Get Busy Learning

The great thing about learning is that you never have to stop. There will always be new ideas, places, subjects, and skills to learn. Below are some ways you can start:

  1. Learn a new language
  2. Learn a new sport
  3. Learn how to fix something that gets broken – a dining chair, your plumbing, your car
  4. Learn how to speak in front of people
  5. Learn a form of art – painting, photography, jewelry making
  6. Take singing lessons
  7. Learn how to play an instrument
  8. Pick an event in history and study it
  9. Take a survival skills class
  10. Learn CPR

Get Busy With Your Health and Fitness

If you don’t have your health, how can you do all your other adventures? Here are some ideas to keep your body and soul happy:

  1. Hire a personal trainer
  2. Hire a personal chef to make healthy gourmet meals
  3. Buy a rebounder and use it (my personal favorite exercise)
  4. Do a cleanse
  5. Train for a marathon/hike/bike event
  6. Go vegetarian
  7. Practice meditation every day for a month
  8. Replace your household products with non-toxic versions
  9. Get a massage
  10. Make kombucha

Get Busy in Your Community (Local or Global)

So many exciting things are happening in your community and around the world. Why not join in the fun? Here are some suggestions:

  1. Join a networking club
  2. Volunteer at a local non-profit organization
  3. Read or teach kids in a classroom or after school program
  4. Fund a Kiva loan
  5. March for a cause you’re passionate about
  6. Join a bowling league
  7. Help plant, weed, or harvest a community garden
  8. Invest your time and money on a volunteer vacation
  9. Join an art or acting guild
  10. Run for public office

Get Busy Going to Events

Each year hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions of events are happening. Which ones have you always wanted to attend or participate in, yet never seem to fit into your schedule? Get out your calendar and make room for some of these events:

  1. Attend a hot air balloon festival
  2. Watch a live Broadway show
  3. Go to a professional sports game
  4. See the Northern Lights
  5. Attend a movie premier
  6. Watch the New Year’s Ball drop in Times Square
  7. Party in New Orlean’s at Mardi Gras
  8. Go to India for the Holi Festival (Festival of Colours)
  9. Attend a music festival such as Coachella or Glastonbury
  10. Shop at the Rose Bowl Flea Market

Get Busy Following Your Passion

Do you ever wonder what your life would be like if you had followed a different path? There is always time to explore your options and try new hobbies or a new career. Who knows, it might just open up your world to something wonderful. Consider these ways to follow your passion:

  1. Write and publish a book
  2. Commit to a new activity or hobby and document your progress like the movie Julie & Julia* or Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead*
  3. Change careers, even if that means going back to school to learn new skills
  4. Become a foster parent
  5. Mentor someone
  6. Start a business
  7. Start a blog or podcast
  8. Become an apprentice or intern for someone
  9. Get a license or certification based on your interests
  10. Hire a coach to help you discover your passions and take actions on your life purpose

Get Busy Facing Your Fears

Growth happens when you step outside your comfort zone. But if you don’t give yourself a little push, fear can creep in. So get out there and do something every day that scares you. These ideas can help:

  1. Go bungee jumping
  2. Go white water rafting
  3. Stay in a haunted house
  4. Get a tattoo
  5. Swim with sharks
  6. Ride a roller coaster
  7. Ask for a raise at work
  8. Pitch your products or services to a big company
  9. Go skinny dipping
  10. Go to the airport, choose a destination on the spot and fly there

Get Busy Doing Random Acts of Kindness

It feels good to do good. Here are some ways you can make a brighter day for someone else:

  1. Buy an extra meal at a restaurant and give it to someone in need
  2. Sponsor a chid in need via a reputable organization
  3. Send a friend or client a card in the mail, just because
  4. Pay for a person’s coffee, groceries, or gas
  5. Give an extra tip to your hairdresser, waiter or valet
  6. Smile at everyone you meet for at least one day
  7. Leave positive post-it notes in public places
  8. Write a genuine and positive comment on someone’s blog or social media page
  9. Allow another car to move in front of you
  10. Pick up garbage when you see it and throw it away without complaint

Get Busy Making Genuine Connections

True connections are made when you take the time to eliminate distractions and focus on the important people in your life. Following are some ideas you can connect with your loved ones for a more meaningful life:

  1. Put down and silence your phone during a conversation
  2. Knock on your neighbor’s door and ask what they might need (a ride, a cup of sugar, a second opinion, or a listening ear)
  3. Look in the mirror and declare your love for yourself
  4. Share a personal story with someone you trust
  5. Apologize and ask for forgiveness where needed
  6. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt
  7. Talk to someone at work you’ve never talked to before
  8. Write to someone who made a difference in your life and let them know
  9. Offer a hug to anyone you feel compelled to connect with
  10. Reach out to that person who pops into your head

Get Busy Changing Up Your Routine

When you do the same things day in and day out, it’s easy to miss the magical moments in life. When you disrupt your schedule, even just a little bit, you create an opening for new awareness. Here are some simple ways to change up your routine for a little more fun in your day:

  1. Take a different route to work or school
  2. Skip the Starbucks, save that money for 30 days and buy something fun at the end of the month
  3. Practice silence for 24, 48 or 72 hours
  4. Eat lunch in the park and then swing on the swings
  5. Buy yourself flowers
  6. Try a new, exotic food
  7. Be a tourist in your own city
  8. Rearrange your furniture
  9. Work standing up
  10. Try a new haircut or color

I recommend you buy a small notebook that you can keep handy in your purse or car. Go through this list and write down the items that speak to you. Start by doing at least one item on your list this week. You can do it by yourself or call a friend to join you. I guarantee the more you “get busy living” the more empowered and happy you will feel.

Which item(s) on this list do you want to try? Share your thoughts below!

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Choosing Your Adventure

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When your alarm sounded this morning how did you greet the day? Did you choose to  be glad, get up, and get going? Or did you choose to hit the snooze a few times and have an attitude of dread? Just for the record I mostly choose to wake up right away but stay in bed for a few moments as I feel my way into happiness and set some intentions for the day.

Every morning that you wake up is like being born again. The past is over. New adventures await. What you do today is what matters most, as the Buddha said.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day and we all have a universal purpose in life. Our purpose is to experience life and sort through the contrast to find our place in the world and become who we really are.

We must take adventures in order to know where we truly belong.

Adventure is what happens when you remain open and curious about life and take action according to what feels most exciting in each moment. Your version of adventure is different than mine and that’s how it should be.

What excites you right now?

What have you been wanting to do but neglected because the timing wasn’t right or because you “should” be doing other things? My challenge for you is to follow your excitement and joy today. Have an adventure.

My joy for today was getting back on the hiking trail. It’s been so hot in Arizona, but this morning was cool so I went out for about an hour and it truly felt like being home. Nature welcomed me and had new things to show me. Inspiration whispered in my ear and I witnessed some amazing views of my city.  After, I stopped at the Uptown Farmer’s Market to pick up some greens and I found a really cool tea vendor with a Zen kind of vibe who had the most heavenly flavors so I picked up a bag.

This is my kind of spur of the moment adventure. What’s yours? Share below and then of course – go out and actually do it!

xo

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 8

Finding Your Tribe

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It is my strongly held belief that we all want to find that place where we belong, with a group of people who understand and share our interests and with whom we feel free to express our most sacred thoughts.

We want a tribe.

Seth Godin, entrepreneur and marketer for the digital age describes a tribe as “a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea. . . A group only needs two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.”

Tribes inspire.

There is power when two or more people come together for solitary purpose. When the thoughts and energy of a group of people are directed together they merge to form a “master mind” where inspiration can flow freely and from there manifest into the tangible.

The energy of a tribe has no physical boundaries.

Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich created an interesting way to connect to the energy of a tribe even when they weren’t physically present. He practiced the art of imagining people who inspired him most (living or dead). During an imagination session Napoleon would ask this Invisible Council as he called it, to provide insight and help him solve a problem in ways that he alone could not accomplish.

I have my own Invisible Council. My council is made up of spiritual gurus, business leaders, free thinkers and creative geniuses. You can probably guess at least one person on this list – Dr. Wayne Dyer. He was the person who guided me out of my depression and into a world of intention and peace.

Today I want to share with you the name of one other person on my Invisible Council. I share this with you today because I desire to move my life actively into a direction that has called my soul for quite some time. I am an artist, a maker. And I desire to expand my business beyond coaching and speaking into a bigger ideal of creating an entire lifestyle brand. The person on my council who best represents this ideal is Daymond John.

A tribe needs leaders.

There are three reasons why Daymond John is one leader I feel aligned with.

1. His ideas are simple and obvious. While this may not appear to be a compliment on the surface, I believe Daymond’s power skill is seeing the essence of an idea or a person and transforming it into a plan that makes sense (and cents).

2. He is a creative genius. Daymond understands how to take raw materials (ingredients, ideas, people) and combine them in such a way that is new, unexpected and on point. From his early days sewing hats to his global marketing and motivational brand of today, Daymond has always been pushing the boundaries of whats possible.

3. He is sensitive and compassionate. Again, some people might not see this as a business strength but I believe these are traits that make him relatable and likable. I’m sure he would also say that sensitivity and compassion help him to be a good judge of character when making investments.

“Mentors, by far, are the most important aspects of businesses.” – Daymond John

In the spirit of an Invisible Council session I will pose three questions here that I would ask Daymond about starting a business.

My questions for Daymond:

1. When starting a lifestyle brand (mine combines spiritual concepts into personal development and personal care products) what process would I go through to determine my first physical product for offer?

2. My message revolves around finding your life purpose and doing what makes your #soulhappy. What is one good way to be seen and grow my following on social media when my posts seem to get lost in a sea of #neverendinghashtags?

3. What is one important thing to know about getting started in business that most people overlook?

Thanks Daymond!!

Advocates, supporters, believers and followers.

You need these in your tribe. It doesn’t matter if you have a business or not. You will feel more freedom when you align with the people who lift you up, share your ideas, and help you spread your message. And you do have a message.

My challenge to you:

Identify one or two people who would be on your Invisible Council (your own private energy tribe). If you were to meet one of them in person, what would you ask? How can your tribe support you and advocate for you?

Be bold. Start now.

Share you answers below, message me or go ahead and contact the person who inspires you most. They might become part of your tribe.

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 6

Unlocking Your Superpowers

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Did you know this year a total of eight Marvel and DC Superhero movies will be released? We seem to have a fascination with ordinary human beings who somehow acquire super human abilities and go on to save the world. While these stories are certainly fictional don’t you secretly desire to have a superpower of your own?

We all want to transcend the ordinary and feel alive. We want to feel valued and respected. We want to attract safety and a sense of belonging. We want love. And we want to be rewarded financially. We imagine that once these needs are met we would then have freedom.

So most of us spend our whole lives searching for the superpower that will provide us with the freedom we desire. We see other people who are doing well and we want to be like them. So we spend thousands of dollars in schools, seminars, and workshops to learn skills we believe will save us only to be disappointed later.

Why does it seem so hard to find your superpower?

I believe it’s because superpowers are actually hard to describe and articulate. You see it’s not just a matter of being good at a task like selling printers or teaching tennis. Below the surface you have an innate way of BEING that allows you to do those tasks with ease and success. The sales person might be able to make people feel comfortable and the tennis teacher might have an excellent understanding of the human body and be able to see how the student can move more efficiently. These are superpowers and they are translatable into a wide variety of situations.

You have superpowers. You were born with them and you will keep discovering ways to use them your entire life.

You may not be aware of your own superpowers because you were taught to value the skills you acquired through hard work, sweat and tears. The truth is that your superpowers are found in the activities you do with ease and joy.

I’ll share my own superpowers with you. I am very good at painting. The reason for this is that I have the ability to mix colors and create compositions that are pleasing. What I’m really doing is feeling the relationship between colors (or ideas) and sensing possible combinations and outcomes. I am a relator. I use this superpower in painting, coaching and being a mom.

Another superpower of mine is the ability to bring out self expression in others. On the surface this looks like being a good listener, but underneath I am a maximizer. That means I have a sense for greatness. I see what makes other people special and I understand how to motivate and bring it out in others.

You can tap into your own superpowers. The following exercise will help you.

Unlock Your Superpowers Exercise

1. Make three separate lists of the following a) things you know you are good at b) things you love to do and c) things your friends and family say you’re good at.

2. For each item on every list ask yourself what makes you so good at that activity. What do you understand about it that other people don’t?

3. Compare your lists to find the common themes throughout.

Sometimes it takes a while to fully grasp how awesome you are. Take whatever you learn from this exercise and go play. Allow your inspiration to guide you as to how you might use your talents by just getting out there and trying something new.

Super Heroes Unite! Share your superpowers below. Maybe someone who reads this will need your talents.

xo

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 4